11 Ways To Improve Self Esteem

There are just two ways to improve self esteem. One way to raise self-esteem is through inflating your ego, which will ultimately backfire, the other is through self discovery. Self discovery and self acceptance is the only permanent and profound way of overcoming low self-esteem. Read on below to discover why out of both ways to improve self esteem it is my most highly recommended.

1. Know That Your Experience Of Yourself Can Change.

First and foremost you must know that life is not one way. Who you think you are is neither fixed nor accurate. A lion could be raised in a herd of sheep and it could think it was a sheep but its thinking is inaccurate. So to you think you are a certain way but your idea is inaccurate.

2. Know That The Only Way To Change Is To Be 100% Responsible

Whether it is true or not or you like it or not live as if everything you have ever experienced has come to you for a reason.

3. Accept Everything That Comes To You

One step on from taking responsibility for everything is to accept everything that comes as it is. If you drop into playing ‘poor me’ or ‘life is unfair’ or some other interpretation then you are no longer just accepting but personalising it, i.e you are making everything that happens mean something about you.

4. Discover Your Unique Make-Up

We are all designed differently and it is available to you to discover what makes you unique from everyone else. We all have different potential in different areas of life. Abraham Maslow’s humanistic psychology focused on how each individual can actualise their unique potential if the choose.

5. Respect Other People’s Uniqueness

Everyone is on a similar journey towards self discovery and actualisation of their potential, some are doing it consciously while others are unaware it is a possibility or are uninterested.

6. Accept Everything You Discover About Yourself

As you discover your uniqueness own it with acceptance and gratitude no matter what it is.

7. Drop Comparisons With Others

Comparing yourself to others takes you away from what is real and engages your ego. The ego does not know what is right for you. Comparing yourself favourably to someone else will help low self-esteem for a few minutes but the good feeling will vanish as quickly as it came.

8. Improve What Is Around You

One of the things we do have control of is the environment we are within. By this I mean the people, books, living conditions, entertainment, food and other influences that surround you. In every moment make a more positive choice. We become a product of what is around us so choose wisely.

9. Embrace Your Reality

Everyone has a different version of reality and yours is as valid as anyone else’s. Be true to what you feel is right for you. Be strong and aligned with your truth. Say what is true for you and say it without seeking approval from others. The stronger the alignment between your internal truth and your external words and actions, the faster you will raise your self esteem.

10. Make Your Truth More Important

See that being true to yourself and honest is more important than what other people think. Other people have their own stuff going on and do not know what it is like to be you. Make you be the authority of you. Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” This is one of the most powerful ways to improve self-esteem because you are in essence backing yourself.

11. Realise That Other People Relate To You For Their Own Reasons

People always act according to what is most important to them and what is for their benefit. It might be glorious to think some people are self-less and act for what is best for others but very few people on the planet have reached this level of development. Humans are concerned with self-survival so they always act in their best interests. You do this too but you probably feel ashamed or guilty to admit this. Accept it and own it. It is not wrong.

These 11 spiritual principles when lived transform your experience of life and of yourself. They are 11 ways to improve self-esteem permanently.

Yvonne Clarke